Soul Mates

Since I’m going to try to write my blogs related to my book, this one is going to be about soul mates. The following is a conversation between the main character, Tess, and her best friend, Kylie, from Chaysing Dreams:

 “Well, do you believe in soul mates?” Kylie yells from the bathroom. I climb out of the bed and walk to the bathroom. I stand with my arms folded in front of me, leaning against the doorway as Kylie washes her face.

“Like, finding your perfect mate and being with them forever?” I think about that for a minute. Then, shaking my head, I say, “No, I don’t think so, Kylie. I think when two people are compatible, they just work at making it work.” I guess I’ve always been practical when it comes to romance.

Kylie dries her face and then turns to me. “Well, I believe in soul mates. I think two people are destined to be together. Maybe sometimes some people never find their soul mate. But I hope we do.” Kylie is obviously the more romantic one.

“I don’t know about all that,” I say. This conversation is too deep for me.

“Everybody has soul mates, Tess. You’ll see. When you find yours, I will remind you of this conversation.”

 Ok, so now I ask you, are you with your soul mate? Do you even believe in soul mates? And does everybody only have one soul mate?

I wonder about topics like this because every once in a while, when I’m hanging out with my friends, or at work with my collegues, subjects like this pop up. It ends up leading to some deep discussions, having everybody evaluating their life. That’s always fun!

Many believe that your soul mate is put on Earth for you, and only you. People believe that you two are made for each other and once you find one another, you live happily ever after. Wouldn’t that be awesome!

Others believe that you have more than one soul mates. Your soul mate can be your sister, your best friend, your mother, etc. It’s the person you connect and bond with through eternity.

But what if you haven’t found your soul mate yet? Does that mean your soul mate doesn’t exist? Maybe you just haven’t met them yet. Or maybe you came across them numerous times, and neither of you realized that he or she is your soul mate! Talk about missed opportunities!

I’ve thought about this many times, especially when I find myself evaluating where I am in life. The practical and the realistic side of me believes what Tess believes. When two people meet, and they are compatible, they make it work. It’s not just happily ever after–relationships are not easy! If it’s worth it to you, and you want your relationship to grow, you have to be willing to work at it. It’s that simple.

But the romantic and the idealistic side of me likes to belive that there is such a thing as soul mates. I love the concept of “love conquers all.” I can’t help it. I simply can’t get rid of that romantic side in me, nor do I want to! I think all of us, to a certain degree, are a sucker for a good romance!

What are your thoughts? Is there such a thing as soul mates? Have you found yours? 

About Jalpa Williby

Jalpa Williby was born in India and immigrated to the United States at the tender age of eight. A voracious reader, Williby’s adolescence was marked by a promising academic career. After graduating with a Bachelors of Science from the University of Illinois, Williby went on to earn her Masters Degree in Physical Therapy from Northwestern University. Her passion for helping her patients led her to a specialty in neuroscience, focusing on children and adults with neurological impairments. For the past 20 years, Williby has worked as a Physical Therapist, a career she loves because she gets to make a difference, “One person at a time!” When she is not working, she enjoys reading, writing, and spending time with her husband and her three children. Juggling her time as a wife, a mother, and working fulltime, her love and passion for books never subsided. Some of her favorite books are A Thousand Splendid Suns, The Twilight Series, and The Hunger Games Trilogy. When asked what inspired her to write her debut novel, Chaysing Dreams, Williby answers simply, “Because I have a story to share.”

Posted on March 2, 2013, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. Growing up I always asked myself those same questions. Do soul mates really exist? Does love really conquer all? As of yet, I haven’t found my soulmate but I hope that one day I will.

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  2. Interesting subject. I think women may tend to believe in this romantic concept, whereas men might say, “What the hell is that?”

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  3. I definitely believe in soul mates. I believe there is more than one person in your life who is your soul mate. I believe soul mates come in your life in different forms; as a parent, child, sister, lover, best friend, or even a pet. Its an undeniable, unexplainable connection that only the two of you can understand. I believe your souls are connected not only for your current life time but for anything that is existent after your current life- essentially for eternity. I believe a soul mate is a very powerful phenomenon- think about it, its two souls that are connected. So, you will always find your way to this soul in every form of your existence.

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    • This is very insightful: “connected not only for your current life time, but for anything that is existent after your current life- essentially for eternity.” I love it! I guess some concepts such as soul mates are too big for any type of scientific explanations. Sometimes, it’s just what you believe in your gut, deep in your soul…

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  4. OMG hilarious, your character talks just like you-imagine that “I don’t know about all that”-you say this all the time. 🙂

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